Love, the four letter word that amuses everyone. The very aspect that makes the core of humanity and the gem man lives to find all his life. Love, the word described without words. The intriguing drug that hallucinates in the minds of many and the jail that takes captive of hearts’ desires.
Love, applicable to anything, anyone and everything. The invisible weapon that sheds blood and the unseen aura that brings peace. Many search it from every nook and cranny. It is depressing being unloved. Every man seeks to be loved, even by their own selves. Love completes man.
Love is the epitome of all humanity. It is a moment in paradise to feel loved. It is bliss when a soul experiences the most complex and bizarre feeling in the world, love.
Everybody has their own definition of love but that doesn’t make it relative. Many talk of bitter-sweet love, painful but sweet love, love without limits, a moment in heaven etc.
Love is a universal keyword. It applies to things, moments, memories, people, pets etc. Love as simple as it is, it is complicated by many.
Many try to understand it rather than embrace it. Many derive its definition from the world, wish they knew it is beyond us.
So what is love? Is it created or does it exist? Is it a choice or a default setting screwed deep in our hearts? Who defines it?
Am not an expert on what love is but I will tell you what I think. Love is beyond the understanding of humans, love is not from humans nor created by things of this world but it is a gift to us.
Love is absolute, it is transcendent from its creator. The only true definition of love comes from above; God is love 1st John 4.8.
Many a time when people, especially young Christians say that they do not believe in love, love is an illusion, love is overrated etc. I have come across several posts saying that love doesn’t exist.
You cannot call yourself a Christian if you say the above. Love, in whatever description comes from God. The Bible is explicit when it says, Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 1 John 4.8
Love is a broad topic and everyone pushes their definitions to the world. Everyone wants to feel loved. Everyone wants to understand it and get to its nitty-gritty.
Nobody can understand love because in trying to understand it, you also want to understand God because simply, God is Love.
Love, to anyone or anything, comes from God. No other worldview can make one know what love is.
Many have talked ill of love because of bad experiences they had in life. I believe in legitimate and illegitimate love. Legitimate love births legitimate pleasure. Illegitimate love, on the other hand, produces pain, regret and hate.
Illegitimate will bring forth statements like, ‘All men are dogs’ and ‘Never trust a woman’. Illegitimate love keeps a record of wrongs. It classifies people based on one experience. Illegitimate love is mean, it is self-seeking, It focuses only on one party. It is always about, ‘What is in for me?’
True love endures pain. Yes, love hurts at times but it only takes legitimate love to heal pain. God loves us so much though we keep hurting him. Though we constantly rush to sin and do evil, he counts us as sons. It is so sad that we rush to criticize others and classify them into worldly-set classes of people after they hurt us.
If anyone keeps saying how their ex did this and that, then they never loved truly – Love doesn’t keep a record of wrongs. A true definition of love is found in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
I once saw a wonderful couple who worked together. They sold chicken in the area I used to live in and for years these two have been business partners. For the six years, I lived in that place, these two have always been smiling to each other and made stories.
They usually opened their workplace at around 10:00 am and left at around 10:00 pm in the evening. One evening I saw them waiting for a matatu in the stage and I was amused by how they looked at each other, always making stories and smiling. I wondered, ‘What kind of love is this?’ How do these two spend the whole day and night together and not get fed up with life? What kind of love is this? Does it really exist?
Yes, true love exists. True love is legitimate, for better for worse. The many who think love doesn’t exist because they have been hurt before and thus never persevered nor forgave, they only loved when the condition was right for them. Because their once thought paradise was hell for them, they dispelled the FACT that true love exists.
Forgiving someone who hurt you before doesn’t necessarily mean that you get back to being with them rather be at peace with yourself, with God and life in general.
How do I experience true love? Simple – You cannot have a product that comes from a different source. Sewage water is still water, but before it became sewage clean water came from a clean source. There are those who have experienced the sewage love – love packaged in a bed of thorns. Illegitimate love boasts, keep records of wrongs and is self-seeking.
True love comes from one source ONLY – God. He himself is love and tells us to love our wives just as Christ loved the Church. Despite the filth the blasphemy and the atrocities we see in the ‘church’ today, He CHOSE and still CHOOSES to love us, unconditionally.
It is only God who is the source of true love, He is the link to the love described in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. He is the author of it, He defines it. Simply put, no other love is legitimate, only that that comes from God. For anyone to have true love, they have to be connected to the author.
For those who curse love and dispel that it is an illusion and doesn’t exist, you are also putting forth the agenda that God is an illusion and doesn’t exist. God is love.