Don't Judge Me The Misused Excuse

Don’t Judge Me – The Misused Excuse

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Merry Christmas, Happy New Year! I never published for the last two weeks. Yes, am sorry, don’t get mad at me ati am not a man of my word. I garra feelings, I get hurt. 😆

Computer problems, Windows Operating system to be precise. Am tired, like seriously. I know it is 18 years together with Windows but I really now want to dump her.

Been formatting my machine over and over from Windows 7 to Windows 10 but it still freezes. There is high disk usage on Windows 10 even after doing ALL the tweaks available. And it just freezes on Windows 7. Becomes numb. And here I am sad, writing this article on the office machine with everyone snooping around.

I thought maybe I could share my predicament, maybe Jesus may touch you to hand over that Mac so that we may have a smooth running of the Silomasays Ministries, who knows? 😉

So, there is a lot in store for you this year, I have 5 guys on board, all my friends who are talented writers and silos of knowledge and information. Most are theologians who just keep all that information to themselves.

I really pushed them last year to write, they started the section of Apologetics and contentious issues in this blog but maguta went low on them. These people were CITAM Thika Road youth pastors Steve Onguko, Gilbert Sang’ and Man of God Aseka Askew Taabu.

To the list, I have added one very funny guy but with an incredible revelation on the word Leonel Wambia and a friend endowed with knowledge of the Holy (This guy walks on books, he calls himself Pagestrian) Peter Pages.

Now, I called each of these guys telling them of the Silomasays Plan this year. I told them that there are tons of readers here who have to wait for Siloma to write on Monday and if he doesn’t like for the past week, he will receive WhatsApp texts.

The sweet ones go like, “Siloma did you stop saying? Aki I am missing your articles.” And others, “You guy! kwani KPLC capped you, where are the Morning Bulbs?” (Morning Bulbs are morning inspirational graphics that I send to tons of groups every morning and publish them on the Silomasays Instagram Page but sadly this week I couldn’t do them – Computer problems 😒).

I see many sharing them on their WhatsApp, Facebook & Instagram stories – Good work keep up, let’s spread the message of Christ. BTW we have a WhatsApp group called #JesusAllTheWay – Click the link to join.

So we will be six guys who will publish all manner of articles each day from Monday to Friday. I told these writers that they should not die with their knowledge. I told them that I expect an article a week from them failure to which they will have to search for any pay bill of someone in need and deposit KES 200. So we will know that every time we miss an article, someone in need received help. Works right? 😉

So that’s what is in store for this blog this year. There will be more work. Am thinking that I have run this blog for years and we should broaden the subject. Am inviting anyone with the burden in their spirit and push to work; to help publish articles in this blog, to create graphics EVERY day without fail and to be an ambassador of hope, inspiration motivation and hope to email me.

Enough info for today. Let’s talk about the most common statement especially amongst Christians, “Don’t judge me.” Every time someone tells me or puts a disclaimer in their statement, “Don’t judge me” I smile.

When people put the disclaimer, “Don’t judge me” in their statements, it means that many people judge them. It means that they are never at peace in what they do or what they have done simply because someone sees what they do or what they are doing inappropriate.

I have heard statements like, “I listen to Beyonce but don’t judge me.” “I take wine but don’t judge me” “I love sin but don’t judge me” “Hey this is how I dress but don’t judge me.” Sometimes am tempted to ask, “Why should you judge me for judging you?”

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A lot can be said about judging others. The verse Matthew 7:1 where Jesus talks about judging is the most misused and misunderstood verse of all times. I need not reinvent the wheel, especially when someone online has done such an incredible piece on it. This is an excerpt from an article, Top 5 Most Misquoted, Misused, and Misunderstood Bible Verses by

1. Judge not, lest ye be judged. Matthew 7:1

The mother of all Biblical misrepresentations. Let us “twist not a scripture lest we be like the devil” (Paul Washer). The most frequently misused verse in the Bible is without question, Matthew 7:1. Often misstated as “Judge not.” or “Jesus said don’t judge.” The most humorous aspect of the misuse of this verse is that it invariable occurs in such a way that the person misusing the verse, in referencing it, actually declares a judgment on the person they feel is being judgmental. Hypocrisy much? Someone will say, “You’re being judgmental. Jesus said don’t judge.” And in their pronouncing a person as judgmental, they too have judged. Additionally, If you’re perceptive enough you will notice as well that Jesus Himself is passing judgment here on those who improperly judge. Clearly this interpretation of this verse doesn’t make sense.


The verse actually reads “Judge not that ye be not judged.” This verse is often swung as a gavel to bring about an immediate cessation of discussion of another person’s behavior. The incorrect understanding of the verse is that we are completely forbidden to call to attention any areas in others’ behaviors that demand correction. This is a clear misinterpretation of Christ’s teaching. The words of Christ:

John 7:24 “Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.”

Matthew 7:16 “You will recognize them by their fruits…”

Luke 17:3 “Be on your guard! If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him.”

Matthew 18:15-17 “If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. 16 But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that by the mouth of two or three witnesses every fact may be confirmed. 17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.

Clearly here, Christ says we are to judge righteously, recognize and discern good from evil by peoples’ actions, and rebuke our brothers and sisters when they sin. To rebuke a brother we must first identify that they have sinned. To identify a person’s sin, we must obviously first judge their behavior. Without the authority to judge others’ behaviors there is no permissible authority by which we could uphold governing laws, discipline children, select leaders, choose teachers and childcare providers, or discern which Bible teachers are profitable to listen to. Our selections of spouses, friends, and business partners are all based on judgments of character and ethics. Christ said, “You will know them by their fruits,” meaning we are to discern between a person who bears fruit, and a person who does not.

Leviticus 19:15 You shall do no injustice in court. You shall not be partial to the poor or defer to the great, but in righteousness shall you judge your neighbor.

To see what Jesus is actually saying when He says, “Judge not that ye be not judged,” it is helpful to read the subsequent verses:

Matthew 7:2-5 “For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the log in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a log in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

We see now that Matthew 7:1 is not a warning against the judging of any action or behavior. It is a warning against self-deception, self righteousness, and hypocrisy.  If you are going to correct someone then you must expect to be held to the same standard.  If you judge with harshness, you can expect to be judged harshly.  If you judge with gentleness and good intent, your brothers and sisters are more likely to return the kindness.  Note that a speck of sawdust and a log are both of the same essence…wood. Jesus here is referring to the hypocrisy of casting judgment on another for a sin of the same essence as a sin of which you yourself are guilty. Jesus declares here that You must first overcome this sin in your own life before you will be any help to your brother. Notice in verse 5 that Christ does not prohibit us from pointing out our brother’s sin, or from assisting him in removing it.  Jesus does not command we say nothing about the speck in our brother’s eye. Jesus commands us to first address this particular issue in our own life, and then assist our brother in love.

1 Thessalonians 5:14 And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all.

Galatians 6:1 Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness.

I remember we had a very heated conversation with a friend telling him that he got the whole concept of judging wrong. He himself started ‘judging’ how I also got the whole idea wrong and we ended up judging each other by who doesn’t know this and that. We even went ahead to justify our actions with the scripture.

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If I see a very beautiful girl shabbily dressed and decide not to associate with her, what metrics will I have used to make my decision? If I decide not to yoke myself or flee from people who will drain my faith, how did I decide to do so? No matter how much we plaster the word judge with sweet words like, ‘measured’ or ‘my spirit told me’ we are just doing it, judging. Judging is inevitable.

How will we admonish the idle or purge evil from among ourselves if we do not judge what is evil from what is right? How will we know them by their fruits if we haven’t placed good fruits and bad fruits on the same scale?

This fear of, “I will be passing judgment” makes us timid to rebuke sin and in turn, we end up with the cycle of ‘Don’t judge me’ ‘Why are you judging?’ and we judge others for judging us.

We then sin, repent, sin again, justify ourselves that we are not perfect, return Jesus to the cross, repent, seek help from others but we tell them not to judge us, we hate when we are rebuked, we say even David a man after God’s own heart sinned and loop.

When one rebukes sin, they are usually asked, “Are you perfect? Are you without sin? Cast the first stone.” And in that statement, they use the verse out of context, they also judge the person who rebukes sin and they sanctify themselves with their ‘skewed knowledge of the word.’

Well, I rebuke sin. Not considering that am perfect, not because I think am holier than thou but because I know what I stand for. I will not be loved for telling someone stop indulging in sexual immorality or this movie is too dirty to be watched by a child of light but I know I need to stand for God and not man.

How many times have you watched and condoned sin? Well, every Monday I rebuke sin in my articles, most will hate the article, most will probably criticize the article and swear not to read an article of mine but know in ministry it is never about you.

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It is never about the followers and subscribers I have on Silomasays, it is never about how well crafted and sweet the articles are but what impact they have. Every time I write an article I ask myself, have I inspired, motivated, rebuked or given hope to any soul out there?

I tell God, let not my ministry be about me. Let it not be about the numbers, the comments, the likes or the shares. If I have to reach only one person, then it is worth it. I rather reach one person than entertain a million. We once had a conversation with Warima Mwangi or Mwanga Band (This is another repository of knowledge and wisdom – we will see how we can extract it) and I loved what she told me.

She said that “If Jesus wants his word out there, in whatever way, it will be passed.” This statement changed my perspective and my previous worries of, “In the many who have read, commented or shared this article, how many have been impacted? How many have a new perspective on life?” Warima’s statement filled in that Jesus will communicate His word to whichever heart in whatever way.

So guys, quit telling people not to judge you. If you are on the wrong you are on the wrong and your spirit (if it is of God’s) will disturb you. I suggest that you read more about what judging means and ask God to give you a revelation of His word. Subscribe! We start our daily publishing in February so keep tuned. Come let’s sharpen each other in the word.


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Siloma Stephen

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I describe myself as simple yet complex, difficult to fathom and a hard nut to crack. I am made of unfailing love, one that sails my boat and oversees my flaws, one that binds me not on any law but nourishes my soul. I write from my soul, generally anything I feel I need to get off my chest most of which is based on my own life experiences, talents, and passions.

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I describe myself as simple yet complex, difficult to fathom and a hard nut to crack. I am made of unfailing love, one that sails my boat and oversees my flaws, one that binds me not on any law but nourishes my soul. I write from my soul, generally anything I feel I need to get off my chest most of which is based on my own life experiences, talents, and passions.

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I describe myself as simple yet complex, difficult to fathom and a hard nut to crack. I am made of unfailing love, one that sails my boat and oversees my flaws, one that binds me not on any law but nourishes my soul. I write from my soul, generally anything I feel I need to get off my chest most of which is based on my own life experiences, talents, and passions.

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