Voices. You realize that there so many voices to listen to, take our country Kenya for example, you realize that there are so many tribes and very few Christians. What voices are people listening to? Is the voice of, ‘This is Kikuyu, this is Meru, this is Maasai or this is Luo’ dominant than ‘This is your neighbor, love him as yourself?’
Luke 10:25 (NIV)
The Parable of the Good Samaritan
25 On one occasion an expert in the law stood up to test Jesus. “Teacher,” he asked, “what must I do to inherit eternal life?”
26 “What is written in the Law?” he replied. “How do you read it?”
27 He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”
28 “You have answered correctly,” Jesus replied. “Do this and you will live.”
It is the first session of CITAM’s ‘The Connection‘ and Pastor David Ewagata is sharing something about love and voices and relationships and courtship and loving Christ. He first talks of the greatest commandment, love.
Moses was given about 700 laws by God governing the Israelites aside the 10 commandments. It is in the 10 commandments that an expert in the law tests Jesus who then affirms that the only way to live is to observe the commandment that says love your God with all your heart.
Love and voices? How do these two match up? Suppose your friend (of course whom you love) talks from afar, will you recognize their voice? Suppose you have spent too much time with someone, let’s say your dad, your mom or your teacher, how fast would you recognize their voice? This same thing works with God, the more time you spend with Him, the more you love him, the more you get to know his voice and recognize it in your life.
So what do you listen to? What voice is dominant and prominent over your life? Movies? ‘That she/he should have a certain description to fit your taste?’ Culture? ‘A woman is not supposed to talk like that to a man? Friends? ‘Why have you never had sex with him and he is your guy?’ Whatever voice we listen to affects our lives. So what voice is loudest, longest and strongest to you?
Mark 12:30 (NIV)
30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’
Is there anything like Christian Dating?
According to the Wikipedia, dating is defined as a part of human mating process whereby two people meet socially for companionship, beyond the level of friendship, or with the aim of each assessing the other’s suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or marriage.
The same Wikipedia defines Biblical Courtship also known as Christian courtship as a conservative Christian alternative to dating. It is a response to secular dating culture within various American Christian communities, c. 1985 to present.
Dating is derived from the secular world where people would meet and assess each other’s suitability. In Christianity, one’s goal in relationship should be marriage. Ewagata says that we should not test relationships on people, it is not a rehearsal. Relationships are not just meant for fun. He continues to say that the only time when one should date someone is when you have seen a marriageable person in them. This is a human with a heart, emotions and expectations.
As humans, we undergo heartbreaks because sometimes relationships do not work. Ewagata emphasizes that we should not burn bridges with people as we do not know where we will meet them later. He also says that we should not love hurting others as this is also God’s child we are hurting.
How do I know what God says about him/her?
Ewagata says that we cannot recognize God’s voice and we never heard or reckon voice since the beginning. We cannot expect Him to answer only when we need Him to but also fail to listen to Him. We need first to know God, love Him with all our hearts and strength and LISTEN to what He is saying so that we may also be able to HEAR and discern what He says.
How do you know the voice of God? Practice – rehearse the word and spend time with God.
What do I do when all is silent?
Simply do not go ahead. Silence doesn’t mean proceed.