Aren’t you tired of pleasing people? Aren’t you tired of pleasing friends who don’t like you or the relatives who do not give a hoot about you? How about you start doing things for you and not them?
How many times have you tried to be nice to people who are always harsh and cruel to you? How many times have you tried to buy ‘friends’ off? How many times have you faked who you truly are so that you could fit in?
For the longest time, I have done my best to please other people. I would do things because it was the society’s way of doing them. I would do my best to try and please as many people as I could. As a result, I lost a lot of money, time, and energy doing things ‘for other people’. Few, if not none acknowledged my generosity.
We think that people will love us more if we did our best to please them, we think that we will gain favor from them if we went that extra mile to drain ourselves off for them. If you live to please you will always live the life of others. You will live as per their standards and as to how they want you to live.
Most people do not really care about what you do, your efforts nor your significance. To them you are just like the ground, to be stepped on and wear out. When you decide it is too much and decide to take your leave, that’s when they realize your importance and entice you with words or offers to come back. The saying, ‘You never know the value of something until you lose it’ is pure evident here.
Most times people take us for granted because we do not know our value. It is because we do not know who we are that people will misuse us. It is because we do not know our importance that other people will define that for us. How about we know what our value, who we are, and our importance?
I have seen people being misused for years. I have seen people enduring for very long in very painful and uncomfortable situations because they simply have nowhere else to go or they have families to feed. I have acquaintances who are still suffering in the very same job that I walked off the front door seven years ago. Mind you, I met them working there. Yes, I had my fair share of trouble but I immensely grew, I evolved into someone I currently admire. Necessity is the mother of invention. If there is no need to invent, to change, or to evolve you will still stagnate.
I have seen people dying in marriages simply because they are pleasing their spouses. I have seen people so grumpy with their lives simply because they are following their parent’s dreams and not theirs. I have seen people so depressed and stressed because they cannot air their differences. For how long? For how long will you live life pressed to the ground?
Life is not easy, but it is when you are free. Why make other people’s lives easier by allowing them to misuse you, hating on you and pressing you to the ground? You need to breathe, you need fresh air and a fresh start. The only person you need to please is God and all will fall into place. Stop pleasing other people.