Who Said Love Hurts?

Who Said Love Hurts?
Siloma Stephen

Siloma Stephen

Founder, Silomasays

Last time I checked love was bliss, a moment in heaven, or was it because that lover boy or beautiful girl made it so?

Did he stop loving you that you started saying all men are dogs or did she heartbreak you that you started asking what women want?

Did you have too much expectations of him and did you very much trusted her but she broke your heart anyway?

Did Maina and King’ang’i at Classic 105 convince you that love is sour or did Patanisho show at Radio Jambo make you resort that there is no true love?

Did Jada’s & Will Smith’s entanglement story affirm to you how treacherous people can be or were you shook by the number of broken marriages amongst celebrities as listed by local blogs?

Which love is this that hurts and which men are these that are four legged, have fur and just sniff around? If I may ask, do all women cheat? Is it true all of them do not know what they want?

Does your love story define all other love stories that exist in this world? Does your hurt and pain become a benchmark for any relationship out there?

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

It is time we knew and understood what love is and not just listen and to what the evil world is saying. Love doesn’t delight in evil. God is love, so any other understanding of love should cease from your heart.

It is time you stopped generalizing people saying all men are dogs and all women cheat. Have you tasted them all? It is not always about you. Love is not self-seeking.

“All Kevins are cheats and all Sharons are sluts.” But we just read that Love doesn’t dishonor others. Why do you dishonor others because your ex hurt you? Yes, you were hurt but does that give you permission to stamp labels on others? Even Jesus was hurt by His disciple, one who betrayed him for 30 cents.

“I am done with men. I do not want any woman in my life again.” Because your previous relationship(s) never worked, do you make that a basis of how you live your life and also preach to others to live the same? Remember that Love doesn’t keep a record of wrongs.

Marriage works. Love doesn’t hurt, it is indeed very sweet. Just because someone who doesn’t understand what true love is hurt you, do not incriminate love. Relationships work, yes they do. Godly relationships work. It never worked because you or your ex were in it for sex, money, or goodies. Love is not self-seeking.

Don’t go around preaching to people how bitter love is because you stepped on hot coals. I see so many older women on social media advising young girls to be single because these men are no good. Why don’t you share your whole story to them first?

Finally, let’s stop looking for perfect people. There are no perfect people on this earth we all have our flaws and Jesus accepted us with all our flaws. Jesus left the 99 and came for you, the one full of filth, anger, bitterness, envy, scorn etc. Why would you expect to find someone whiter than snow while you are as red as scarlet?

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I have learnt a lot from my spiritual father Prophet Elvis Mbonye. You can watch him every Sunday on NTV as from 9:00am – 10:00am, every Tuesday on Facebook Live as from 6:30pm. You can also subscribe his YouTube Channel to get words of life. I pray that you enter this new realm where impossibility is a myth and get to know that you are an overcomer.

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